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malaysia, differently

Our trip back to Malaysia this time round felt split into two parts. One of discovery - a part I enjoy every time I head back - where we head out and explore what’s new in this ever-changing facade that is KL city. The other was more of an actual holiday, where we basically found our selah. We stayed in during the afternoons, invited some friends over, and soaked in the nice waters of the pool and spa. The latter part was definitely a different experience for me, as I’ve always been one to venture out to do as much and meet as many people as possible. But seeing that both Lily and I were still recovering, it was definitely a much needed rest to recuperate.

Here are a few snapshots though of our ‘discovery’ bit - from the good ol’ mamaks to new, overcompensating grocery stores, Cantonese-speaking birds to enamel kitchenware shopping - our adventures were not what they had been had it not been for the great company we had with Iris and Ant.

maggie mee goreng

rooster

@ WonderMilk

@ WonderMilk

@ Ben's Independent Grocer

The Pear is a member of the Rose family

@ Ben's Independent Grocer

@ Ben's Independent Grocer

bakery @ Ben's Independent Grocer

yck

yck + kopi-o kau-kau

for enamel and plastic kitchenware

floral

abandoned

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singapore, in a snapshot

Singapore, in a snapshot

On the last night in Bangkok, just before we began our journey southbound to Singapore, I found myself struck by a terrible fever. Doused with rounds of Panadol and gallons of water, I was stretching myself thin as I gung-ho’ed my way, spending practically the entire day between planes and airports until Lily and I found ourselves in Singapore that evening. And possibly thanks to the 4th round of paracetamols within 24 hours by then, I actually arrived at Changi feeling pretty good. Thus, armed with a (false) sense of assurance then, we decided it was a good idea to go nuts on arrival at the local hawker stalls in Bedok.

Bad idea.
And before I could say, “Syok man!”, I was heating up quick again.

Thankfully, Aunty Ann has an iron-fist habit enforced in her household; which is not one I have just found out during this trip, but was subject to without the opportunity to retaliate this time round. At almost every meal, all of her kids (Jon included!) are fed with supplements which include an impeccably architected selection of pills and tablets to both boost the immune system and basically improve our general well-being. Given my poor state of health, I was prescribed a saucer of supplements of my own. And before one could sceptically raise a finger, I would attest to you saying that by the next morning, I was really on my two feet again, ready to brave the Singaporean streets.

Well, until it came Lily’s turn, that is.
Two hours into meeting up with Shaun & Rulin at Bugis, Lily found herself struck with food poisoning. We hailed a cab after our 15 minutes in Haji Lane, and before we knew it, we were back at Jon’s where we spent the remainder of our day.

Our trip to Singapore did not turn out the way we thought it would have. We never would have thought we’d end up spending New Year’s Eve at home, after months of anticipation and planning to catch up with friends, only to find them all thrown out the window for an early night in bed.

It was a blessing then, I guess, when we found ourselves better the next morning after much rest and was able to at least see a few fond faces during the New Year’s service at church, followed even by lunch with a few more. But that still spelled the end of our short-lived trip to Singapore which turned out to be merely be a series of unfortunate events strung across a day and a half.

Oh well, looks like we’ll just have to pick up where we left off with Shaun & Rulin in August then, hey?
But until then, it was off back to Malaysia for us next.
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scenes from chao phraya

We took a boat from the Saphan Thanksin Station, up the Chao Phraya River towards the Grand Palace.
Traveling the murky river is as if watching history unfold, as old architecture blends in with the modern contemporary, and landmarks progress with the punctuations of time. Nuanced with rich cultural influences - from Chinese villages to British colonial mansions, right down to the uniquely pointed Thai temples - nothing seemed planned and fitted, and yet they seem to just blend seamlessly.

scenes from chao phraya

scenes from chao phraya

scenes from chao phraya

scenes from chao phraya

scenes from chao phraya

scenes from chao phraya

scenes from chao phraya

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bangkok, in a glance

haze-screened sky

Descending into Bangkok is as if submerging into a sea. Up in the air, the view below twists the order of nature as a massive cloud spanning across horizons rests upon the surface of the city landscape while the sky above a clear blue. As the plane lands, the haze becomes more evident as buildings are filtered by a blanket of creamy air, its dirty colour only slightly betrayed by the spectrum of a shrouded sun. The sprawling metropolis houses over 14 million people, with an addition of over 20,000 motor vehicles (net) to the roads annually. Even though the hotel was only about 15 km away from the airport, it took us up to an hour to trudge through the horrific traffic which was glorified even more by traffic stories told by the limousine driver along the way.

I did not like the scene one bit.
But only in a glance.

monk

Because upon a closer look, if one could push past the traffic, the weather, the pollution, and the dirt; one would discover, as I did, what a gem the city beholds.

From experience, I never thought that traveling with the family was a great idea, let alone the idea of traveling with two families - both Lily’s and mine. And in many ways, it really was a bad idea. And yet, we somehow survived and live to tell the tale of how we boated our way through the canals of the floating market, haggled our way to get the ‘chip chip best pri’ in all our shoppings, learned that Starbucks is not necessarily a cafe outlet, and gazed at the city lights from the 64th floor at the Scirocco rooftop bar.

Our first stop was the floating market, which the one (of a few) we visited was a good two hours drive out of Bangkok central. As skyscrapers grew shorter and trees grew taller, so did the skies begin to open up to a clear blue, and before we knew it, the roads gave way to canals where boats replaced cars. The floating market, much to my surprise, was an actual market. While there were tourists-focused stores selling handcrafted souvenirs and the likes, the heart of the market was actually a real market where villagers would buy their daily needs. The experience in itself was amazing! All seven of us boarded a long speedboat which jetted its way through the narrow canals of the river village, walled by houses on stilts. The idea was that some of these houses doubled as stores where we may ‘dock’ to buy (without actually getting off the boat), while other stores sell directly from their boats as well. From souvenirs to clothes, accessories, food and desserts, and even household appliances - the floating market had them all!

coconut sugar

the floating market

the floating market

lamps

Shopping in Bangkok - be it at the floating market or the streets of Sukhomvit, and even the great MBK- is a skill to acquire (and one that would probably take you far in life). I must admit I am absolutely hopeless at haggling for prices, and hence am glad we had our parents and Sher to do the fighting for us. And with that, it is amazing to see just how low the prices can get; and just how high a margin most stores would otherwise be making. Just when you think the asking price seemed fair (as compared to prices one would pay for any product here), dad snaps back at 30% of it. After an almost ferocious battle of wits, one would generally arrive at an agreement of about 50% of the original asking price. Now, given that the store is still obviously making a margin out of this, one just has to wonder where all our money’s been going to all this time living in the developed world.

In preparation to travel, Lily found a rooftop bar in the city which we decided to add to our personal checklist to visit. Occupying the top floor of the Lebua hotel and crowned with a golden dome, one would have thought it is a well-known spot in Bangkok itself (they even filmed movies, including Hangover 2 there). Apparently not. On our last night, finding our way to Scirocco turned out to be a hilarious adventure as our efforts were lost in translation. Combining my Win, Lose or Draw skills on a piece of paper and Lily’s patient translations (“See-row-ko!” Res-tor-ren!” “On. The. Roof!”), we managed to compromise with a mall security guard by just asking him to point to the closest Starbucks instead (which would have a wi-fi connection, enabling us to google the bar). As his eyes flickered with the familiarity of the name, he clenched a fist and exclaimed, as if in victory, “Oh! Starbucks! Yes, yes, come!”.

Finally, after a gruelling 5 minutes of deciphering each other, we were getting somewhere. The guard walked us out towards the streets, ready to point us to the cafe which would have been right around the corner, but only to bring us to a group of school boys hanging out in the mall and asking them for help instead.

“Starbucks!”, he grinned.

I don’t know how that worked, but the teenagers turned out to be of great help, not just helping us locate the bar on their phones, but also taking the courtesy to call to confirm for us. Like I said - gems.

on scirocco

on scirocco

on scirocco

From the top of the city, looking down, the darkness hides the dirt, the mess, the noise, and even masks the obvious pollution in the air. One couldn’t tell how an ultra-modern shopping mall, architected as if an airport terminal could rise right next to the darkest of lane-ways, reeking of waste. Jazz floats in the thin air above and the rich wine and dine without a worry of what they will return to below. Again, I wonder how the nature of this world is twisted.

Bangkok is like a palette with different colours smeared all over. Some colours remain pure, but most are mixed; resulting in either something beautiful in between or something dark and dirty. The painter smudges across the palette and creates a new shade everytime he dips again. In the same way I know that when I return in a few years, the city will be a new one to discover all over again. It is a city that doesn’t sleep. The food is hot. The air is sticky. The streets are dirty. And the people are kind.
It is a mess, but with heart.
And the next time I go, I’m going to make sure I pack a lot of Eno!

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late night conversations (iv)

  • Me: ZzZzZzzz...
  • Her: Yay!
  • Me: ?!
  • Her: ZzZzZzzz...
  • Me: .......
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time, fleeting

after dark

In just a blink of an eye, two months have passed.
And in another, a year.

Since the last time I’ve blogged, I’ve finished two books, started a new book, completed my CPA exam (and hopefully, my last), got back in to the routine of cycling, lost the routine of cycling, grown and shaved a mo twice, flown to Brisbane and back twice, and celebrated my first wedding anniversary.

It’s scary how life zips past so quickly that before I could even blink to catch a second glimpse of the remnants of any moment, time, unforgivingly, has come and gone. The end of another year has come. I turned twenty-six without noticing the slightest change. Not that nothing has; but I have merely yet to find the time (hah!) to turn back and look at my footprints in the sand. And with that, it is hard to tell if I have strayed or kept to the path I initially set.

I can’t tell if it’s just my priorities, or if I simply just am overwhelmed with things to do, that I have lost focus on.
Regardless of the reason, I know that I am in a place of uncertainty. Matt said yesterday over lunch that we are currently at a huge junction in our lives - for many of us here still in Melbourne. The generation we grew up with - our Paul’s, our Timothy’s, and our Barnabas’ have all gone their separate ways; and the rest of us are left standing at the fork of the road. I look ahead and the horizon held by each path seems to only hold a dry mirage of nothingness. What really lies ahead, I guess, is a matter of faith, and faith is stepping into the unknown.

What I do know, however, is that I have her.
I am not alone.

Even in the hours after dark, she is there by my side; walking with me, holding my hand, neither getting ahead nor falling behind.
She is simply there by my side the whole time.
God knows I do not deserve her, and God knows the grace she has shown over the last year.
I can only be thankful and hope that one day, I may rise up and continue in pursuit to be the man she had prayed for me to be for her.

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home

home, outside

I’ve been tired.
It hasn’t even been two years since I’ve moved into Epping, and already I’m restless enough to almost have bought another house last week, that despite being a dream home in itself, would’ve been the wrong decision to make. I’m not sure if it’s just the distance and time spent on the road that’s wearing me down - it takes me forty minutes to get to work when we drive, an hour for Lily, and when I train into the city on other days, it takes fifty minutes. Maybe it’s the lack of a supportive social network that I have always been so used to as well (out here in the woods).

But that has to change. And it’s not necessarily by me moving in closer to the city. In fact, I know that that is definitely not the solution. Lily said something to me yesterday that made me realise just how little of this place I have always thought of as home. In this whole time living here, I guess I have always, although subconsciously only, treated this as a transition to moving on to a ‘better’ home that is closer to the city. From the beginning, I have always set my eyes on heading back in.

I need a reality check.
No, Epping does not have great cafés with single-origin-I’m-such-a-snob coffee. And no, Epping does not offer great shopping personified by hipsters littering the streets. No, there isn’t any quaint old bookshops around to browse through the majesty of paper. And no, there isn’t even great food to make the Broadsheet list.

What I have bought into here is something else completely. And today, I decided to explore and rediscover again on my two wheels just what really makes up my home.

Lyndarum development

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Epping sky

I must admit the obvious: that this isn’t what I always thought ‘home’ would be like to me.
I have always fancied that old colonial building with timber floors, broad and wide windows from the high ceilings to floor, bookshelves poured with the morning sunlight, a herb patch to make the empty space a courtyard, and the kitchen that Martha Stewart would’ve thought was hers. One car would suffice as public transportation is the primary mode of motion. And of course, everything and everyone else just a stone’s throw away.

But this is something else completely. Dare I say, this is almost an escape from all that. This is dark at night with stillness and quiet. When the sun rises, it doesn’t peek through the corners of buildings but bathe the Earth instead. The air is crisp with a tinge of lavender. And it is all still growing.

I have yet to hang a single picture or painting on the wall. And the ideas of building a deck in the courtyard and planting creepers along the high wall that we used to talk about have yet to be realised. It’s about time I started getting my hands dirty and picking up the ideas I’ve previously shelved ‘for the next place’.

I think it’s time for me to start treating this place like home.

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